MemberDecember 17, 2021 at 1:43 pm
Thank you Renee! I definitely know the hard way that people pleasing isn’t actually possible! For me, I see it as a defense mechanism; it’s more about trying to preemptively manipulate other people’s volatile emotions than it is about actually making them happy. At the core is that need for validation and attempting to get my own needs met. It made sense as a kid, when I needed to get my needs met from my emotionally volatile parents, but as an adult I can meet my own needs or go to healthier people to meet my needs. That’s where the mental block is though! I’ve been trying to do both with limited success, and I’m feel stuck in my ability to progress, but that’s why I’m here! I’m looking forward to getting to know other people, and getting insights like yours to help me shift my mindset.